Grooms' Corner

Today's grooms are more savey than in the past. They want to (or should) be involved in the wedding planning. Gone are the days when a groom just showed up, said "I do" and was done.



This is a groom's day as well as the bride's. Eventhough the focus is on the bride, there is as much emotion on the groom's part. This is your wedding day as well and you should feel like you can contribute if there's something you feel you'd like to say.



For example, if you have a female friend who means a lot and has been close, why not ask her to stand as your honor attendant. Nothing says you have to have a best man! Yes, she should dress like the other bridesmaids and carry a bouquet or something similar to the bridesmaids.



What if you have a special color you'd like included? Tell you bride about it and see if it can't be incorporated. (However, please understand not all brides are into NFL,NBA or MLB colors!!!!)

Drop hints as to what you might like to have if your bride decides to surprise you with a groom's cake. Don't like cake? I've had icecream cakes made to take the place of the cake.



Let your bride know your thoughts. She may not take all your suggestions, but I'm sure she'll be glad to hear you are interested in the planning.



Many groom's don't think a wedding coordinator is necessary, but let me recommend that if you want your bride, FMIL and your family to enjoy the day, you'll be the first to suggest it. Having a good coordinator is invaluable when it comes to figuring out complex issues such as blended families, working in children from a previous marriage, working out compromises between the two of you and families; and in helping you to have a stress and worry free day.



Have questions? I'm happy to help you from helping plan your proposal to any questions regardin wedding planning. Just email me at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com or call me at 303-779-0395. (I not only do weddings in Colorado, but am available to help plan and travel to your destination site.)



One last note if you just got engaged, consider giving your fiance a copy of my book WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE, A Bride's Workbook(c). It will make both your jobs easier! To order, email me or give me a call at 303-779-0395.



Have a great summer!