Today's grooms are more savey than in the past. They want to (or should) be involved in the wedding planning. Gone are the days when a groom just showed up, said "I do" and was done.
This is a groom's day as well as the bride's. Eventhough the focus is on the bride, there is as much emotion on the groom's part. This is your wedding day as well and you should feel like you can contribute if there's something you feel you'd like to say.
For example, if you have a female friend who means a lot and has been close, why not ask her to stand as your honor attendant. Nothing says you have to have a best man! Yes, she should dress like the other bridesmaids and carry a bouquet or something similar to the bridesmaids.
What if you have a special color you'd like included? Tell you bride about it and see if it can't be incorporated. (However, please understand not all brides are into NFL,NBA or MLB colors!!!!)
Drop hints as to what you might like to have if your bride decides to surprise you with a groom's cake. Don't like cake? I've had icecream cakes made to take the place of the cake.
Let your bride know your thoughts. She may not take all your suggestions, but I'm sure she'll be glad to hear you are interested in the planning.
Many groom's don't think a wedding coordinator is necessary, but let me recommend that if you want your bride, FMIL and your family to enjoy the day, you'll be the first to suggest it. Having a good coordinator is invaluable when it comes to figuring out complex issues such as blended families, working in children from a previous marriage, working out compromises between the two of you and families; and in helping you to have a stress and worry free day.
Have questions? I'm happy to help you from helping plan your proposal to any questions regardin wedding planning. Just email me at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com or call me at 303-779-0395. (I not only do weddings in Colorado, but am available to help plan and travel to your destination site.)
One last note if you just got engaged, consider giving your fiance a copy of my book WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE, A Bride's Workbook(c). It will make both your jobs easier! To order, email me or give me a call at 303-779-0395.
Have a great summer!
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Destination Weddings vs. Planned Elopements
I want to differintiate between a Destination Wedding and a Planned Elopement.
A Destination Wedding is one that takes place away from your home and includes a number of guests generally under 50. These generally are 3-5 days in length, with activities planned for guests.
A Planned Elopement is a wedding that is generally the bride and groom and possible a couple of friends or family members.
Both are wonderful ways to keep costs in check, especially for those who would have a guest list of 400 if they stayed at home!
A big difference is that you need to expect the same amount of planning, from a wedding coordinator, to go into planning your destination wedding as you would if having a home wedding. Where with a "Planned Elopement" there's still a time factor, but not nearly as involved.
You can plan to pay a wedding coordinator the same for their services as if you were in the vicinity planning your wedding. The only additions I charge are for travel expenses if the wedding includes traveling outside the metro area.
The same for elopements. Fees are based on what services you want and what you want included.
I'm happy to assist with either your destination wedding or "Planned Elopement" and am available to travel to your chosen destination to take care of all details.
Check out my website at www.weddingsbytanya.com for additional information on packages, email me at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com or call 303-779-0395.
A Destination Wedding is one that takes place away from your home and includes a number of guests generally under 50. These generally are 3-5 days in length, with activities planned for guests.
A Planned Elopement is a wedding that is generally the bride and groom and possible a couple of friends or family members.
Both are wonderful ways to keep costs in check, especially for those who would have a guest list of 400 if they stayed at home!
A big difference is that you need to expect the same amount of planning, from a wedding coordinator, to go into planning your destination wedding as you would if having a home wedding. Where with a "Planned Elopement" there's still a time factor, but not nearly as involved.
You can plan to pay a wedding coordinator the same for their services as if you were in the vicinity planning your wedding. The only additions I charge are for travel expenses if the wedding includes traveling outside the metro area.
The same for elopements. Fees are based on what services you want and what you want included.
I'm happy to assist with either your destination wedding or "Planned Elopement" and am available to travel to your chosen destination to take care of all details.
Check out my website at www.weddingsbytanya.com for additional information on packages, email me at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com or call 303-779-0395.
Friday, August 1, 2008
October in Atlanta, GA
Wanted to let anyone, in the Atlanta, GA area know that I will be in Atlanta Oct. 8-11. I'm coordinating a wedding there on the 10th, however, if you are interested in getting married in Colorado, taking the course The Art of Wedding Coordination, or even possibly having me coordinate your wedding in GA or elsewhere, I'd be happy to set up appointments to meet with you.
If you want to arrange a time, email me at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com with your name, wedding date, location, phone, email and a good time to reach you.
If you want to arrange a time, email me at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com with your name, wedding date, location, phone, email and a good time to reach you.
Involving Children
Can you believe it's August already? It's not to early to start the planning process for any weddings in 2009.
When the bride and groom have children, they look for ways to incorporate them into the ceremony. It's extremely important that children feel like they, too, are becoming part of the new family that's being created.
Several ideas as to how you can include them are:
* Have your officiant work a vow into the ceremony for them and you to take.
* When doing a unity candle (or whatever you use), have the children participate so they know they are included in this new family being formed.
* Present them with a special gift during the Unity celebration, or even when the rings are exchanged.
* If they are old enough, ask them to read a special poem or scripture.
* When you are presented, be presented as the Smith Family, instead of Mr. and Mrs. Fred Smith.
Hope these give you some ideas. Please feel free to contact me direct at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com if I can be of any assistance. www.weddingsbytanya.com
Have a great August!
When the bride and groom have children, they look for ways to incorporate them into the ceremony. It's extremely important that children feel like they, too, are becoming part of the new family that's being created.
Several ideas as to how you can include them are:
* Have your officiant work a vow into the ceremony for them and you to take.
* When doing a unity candle (or whatever you use), have the children participate so they know they are included in this new family being formed.
* Present them with a special gift during the Unity celebration, or even when the rings are exchanged.
* If they are old enough, ask them to read a special poem or scripture.
* When you are presented, be presented as the Smith Family, instead of Mr. and Mrs. Fred Smith.
Hope these give you some ideas. Please feel free to contact me direct at tanya@weddingsbytanya.com if I can be of any assistance. www.weddingsbytanya.com
Have a great August!
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